Hello! I’m 35 years old single woman. I am a pharmacist who live in near Tokyo. I used to work at a pharmacy, and now I’m working at a pharmaceutical company in Tokyo. I’d like to write about an ordinary Japanese working woman’s life.
When I was twenties, I wasn’t interested in marriage. Because if I marry, I have to cook, clean the house, wash clothes, care children, and nurse my parents and husband’s parents if they have disease or disability. Moreover, I may live with husband’s parents in some cases. If Japanese women marry, they have many burdens.
On the other hand, what do Japanese men do after they marry? They have to work for their family of course. But once they come back home after work, they watch TV, read newspaper, and call their wives sometimes, “Give me a cup of tea”.
This is a typical Japanese married life. So, some Japanese women give up to work when they get marry even if they are physicians.
Nevertheless, most Japanese women want to marry. Why? I think that most Japanese women don’t want to work if their husband can earn to live their family. And most Japanese consider that they aren’t happy if they don’t marry and have their children. I guess Japanese women want to have children rather than husband. However, it’s difficult that single mothers raise their children in Japan due to economical and prejudicial reasons.
I became 35 years old in June 2008. My career life is going well, and I’d like to marry and have children while working now. But I don’t have a steady boyfriend and I can’t find a man who I want to marry him around me. So, I went to a dating agency in Tokyo three months ago. The Agency makes matchmaking and introduces suitable candidates of partner to customers. And also, they often make parties which customers can join. Over 20,000 people who want to marry are registered to here. There are over 5,000 similar providers in Japan. Everyone who over 20 years old and single can become a member of the agency.
The total fee is about 400,000 yen (about 3600 US $) for two years. It’s very expensive, but average of those . Also, our company’s benefit’s package was available, so I paid about 200,000 yen (about 1800 US $). Compared to similar service on web, these agencies are reliable. Members of agencies should submit a lot of certificate.
I submitted single certificate, a copy of graduation certificate of the college and identification certificate, and my profile to the agency. Also, I submitted my pictures which were taken by a professional photographer. It seems that I am more beautiful than usual!
Then, the staff of the agency asked me my ideal partner profile.I’d like to meet a thirties man who graduate a university, non-smoker, and an annual income is over 5 million yen (about 45500 US $). My annual income is about 7 million yen (about 63600 US $) which is higher than those of most Japanese men.
In Japan, single people are increased these days. They want to marry, but they can’t.In my opinion, one of the reasons is their shyness. Most Japanese are poor at making a move on favorite man or woman. And business is dull in Japan these days, so Japanese men have no confidence to earn fully for their family. As the result of those reasons, the number of children is decreased in Japan. It’s very serious problem in Japan.
When I registered to the agency, I’m worry about my age. Generally Japanese men want to marry twenties women .They consider that young women are beautiful and can have many healthy children( I wonder how many children they want). Therefore, most Japanese women want to marry before they become 30 years.
Moreover, Japanese men don’t like women who have high educational background or earn more than them, because they feel their pride are hurt. Most Japanese are still very conservative.
Several days later, I got an e-mail from the agency. They introduced twelve men to me. I chose three men and send e-mails to them. Two men answered. We promised to go out.
The registered members can see other member’s profile on website. We can search favorite men or women and send e-mails. I send a few e-mails and received a lot of e-mails! I met 5 men during three months. I’ll write about my experience next time.